The right way to start talking to girls

Posted on 09. Apr, 2009 by Kennedy in How to Talk to Girls, Increase Your Confidence

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These are examples of open-ended questions. Open-ended questions are great for conversation starters, and they also come in handy to help extend a conversation that might have otherwise become stagnant.

Your odds of getting past the first 10 seconds of interaction increase dramatically when you start with an open-ended question.

So what is an open-ended question? It is a question that cannot be answered with simple “yes”, “no.” They require a more detailed answer.

Below are some examples of questions that are not open-ended. These questions can be answered with just one word and the kind you should avoid asking the first time you speak to a girl you like.

• How are you today?
• Do you need any help with that?
• Can I help you find anything?
• Do you come here often?

So what’s the problem with this type of closed question? In reality, nothing. The above examples are okay forms of interaction with girls. But you want more than just a basic interaction – you want a conversation.

The point is to get the girl you like to open up a little bit

Open-ended questions are great at getting girls to open up. They allow you to keep the conversation flowing.

And the best part? You can come up with your own question to fit the occasion.

For example, if you see a girl at the gym you might ask, “How do you like working out here?” But if you’re at the grocery store you might say, “I’ve never tried that fruit before, how does it taste?” I’ll give you some more examples at the end of the article to help get you started.

Now this isn’t to say you should put off close-ended questions completely. They come in handy once you find yourself conversing with a girl. Like when you ask her name (which is something you’ll hopefully ask at SOME point). You may ask a girl, “Do you like the band?” and end up sharing reasons why the concert you are at is completely awesome.

Remember, first impressions are everything, so try to have an open-ended question ready to make YOUR first impression. I’ll share some examples of open-ended questions in a later post, so be sure to check back soon.

We’d like to hear from you. Ask questions or suggest your recommendations for open-ended questions with the rest of the AoG community in the comments below. Well, don’t hesitate. Get to it!

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207 Responses to “The right way to start talking to girls”

Michael

01. Jul, 2011

@ Troy and John,
If it’s a good friend of yours, then don’t jeopardize that your friendship. Best to just leave it be for now. If they end up breaking up, then give it some time. Then ask your friend if he would mind you asking her out.
lovaboy

10. Jul, 2011

ay i like dese 2 galz nd dey both r beautiful but other galz hav been aproachin me 4 da last 6 monthz now , i turn dem down hoping dat the 2 dat i lyk wil also aroach me…… but no luck yet . what must i do
cody

03. Aug, 2011

Hi my names cody and im kinda in a predicament and im reaaaally hoping you might be able to give me some advice :3.
Ok theirs this girl named amanda and ive known her all throughout middle school. Were friends but we dont know eachother that well but were i still care for her alot. (if thats makes sence) Were both going to start highschool this august and i wanted to try to become more than friends…..just one problem. Im kinda the class clown. always doing things to make people laugh, very theatrical ec.
And shes so mature and sophisticated. Not to sound like im full of myself but im very respectful to everyone especially women, and i try to be nice to everyone. I can be super sweet and most of my friends are girls. Im super sensitive for a guy because i was raised by two women. lol i even prefer a chick flick over a slasher . But im just afraid that she doesnt see that! I want to show her how much she means to me…and for her to see that side of me………any help would be appreciated and i will be so grateful.
Thanks a bunch!

-Cody
Brett

04. Aug, 2011

Okay I am really in trouble here, there is this girl I haves liked for a while now, she is a good friend of mine, And her brother worships me, I dont want to put our friendship on the line, but I can’t take being just her friend, please I know she used to like me, but I am not sure if she still does, please please help, she has hinted that she does/doesn’t like me to state extra info
Brett

04. Aug, 2011

Cody, tell her that you changed over the summer, hit the books NOW, and just don’t be a comedian, sue will see that, and then she is yours

-Brett
Real Man Real Life Real Style

24. Nov, 2011

1) walk up to girl. 2) Talk to girl. That is all.
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05. Jan, 2012

Cody, Actually being the class clown is a good thing. That’s going to be your biggest strength in attracting women. Most girls love a sense of humor. Just be confident and go for it– or perhaps if you already did, congratulations! If things didn’t go the way you wanted them to, use your sense of humor to attract other women.