The right way to start talking to girls
Posted on 09. Apr, 2009 by Kennedy in How to Talk to Girls, Increase Your Confidence
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These are examples of open-ended questions. Open-ended questions are great for conversation starters, and they also come in handy to help extend a conversation that might have otherwise become stagnant.
Your odds of getting past the first 10 seconds of interaction increase dramatically when you start with an open-ended question.
So what is an open-ended question? It is a question that cannot be answered with simple “yes”, “no.” They require a more detailed answer.
Below are some examples of questions that are not open-ended. These questions can be answered with just one word and the kind you should avoid asking the first time you speak to a girl you like.
• How are you today?
• Do you need any help with that?
• Can I help you find anything?
• Do you come here often?
So what’s the problem with this type of closed question? In reality, nothing. The above examples are okay forms of interaction with girls. But you want more than just a basic interaction – you want a conversation.
The point is to get the girl you like to open up a little bit
Open-ended questions are great at getting girls to open up. They allow you to keep the conversation flowing.
And the best part? You can come up with your own question to fit the occasion.
For example, if you see a girl at the gym you might ask, “How do you like working out here?” But if you’re at the grocery store you might say, “I’ve never tried that fruit before, how does it taste?” I’ll give you some more examples at the end of the article to help get you started.
Now this isn’t to say you should put off close-ended questions completely. They come in handy once you find yourself conversing with a girl. Like when you ask her name (which is something you’ll hopefully ask at SOME point). You may ask a girl, “Do you like the band?” and end up sharing reasons why the concert you are at is completely awesome.
Remember, first impressions are everything, so try to have an open-ended question ready to make YOUR first impression. I’ll share some examples of open-ended questions in a later post, so be sure to check back soon.
We’d like to hear from you. Ask questions or suggest your recommendations for open-ended questions with the rest of the AoG community in the comments below. Well, don’t hesitate. Get to it!
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Jose
12. May, 2010
Hey bro whats up , your advices are very helpfull , i need a help with one thing i have the confidence to like talk to girls like i do it but i dont have the ideas to like make a conversation to let them know that i lke them or to let her knw that i want to kiss her without askin for it. or just to have that conversation to get them into wanted to kiss or something
it would very helpfull if u help me with that thanks , hope your reply soon THANKS
Kennedy
14. May, 2010
@ Jose
Sounds like you’re most of the way there, man! You just need to know when the time is right to get in there for a kiss. Don’t even bother asking for a kiss. When the time is right, and you are both feelin’ it, then you should just lean in and make it happen. Good luck!
Josh
19. May, 2010
Yeah man i like this for real but i got another type of question…….so my girlfriend and me really like each other we talk to each other EVERYDAY on facebook and on the phone sometimes. Now what i want to know is she had indicated to me that she wants to have sex but i just don’t know how to do it the right way with her. She isn’t like other girls and i need to make sure that i approach her the correct way about this so she doesn’t feel uncomfortable at the end of the day……HELP ME OUT!!!
Kennedy
21. May, 2010
@ Josh
Not gonna lie to ya - we don’t do sex advice in these parts. But I’ll throw you a bone here - if you’re only talking to her on facebook the majority of the time, then I would probably look at talking to her more face-to-face before I considered any big relationship decisions going forward…
i have this friend i like and when we are on the phone there is jus nothing to tlk about
23. May, 2010
I have this friend i like but when we are on the Phone there is nuffn to tlk about its always silient
JOHNY
27. May, 2010
hey thnx to whoever has written dis,atleast it boost up my confidence nd nw i can approach her much more confidently……. bt i need sum help, i go to guitar classes and there a girl is also coming who started her classes right with me, we had our first clas together, but i am not gettin how to approach her,how to ask her number and when,how to ask her for some hang-outs nd when …… actually my school was not co-ed and i really don have ne idea how to talk to a girl,my frnds say i am shy and i admit it…… but i don want to loose dis girl already i’ve missed many opportunities……. please guide me,thnx hope u reply soon…………….
Aj
14. Jun, 2010
hey bro they were pretty cool but i had a doubt………….. i mean u knw like when u go upto the girl u like n u really dont knw any thing about her, n u start the conversation. it may not always b a welcome conversation right? i mean what if the girl is shy?????????
Aj
14. Jun, 2010
girls can be shy, cant they……….. and i am from India so u knw the girls in here, most of them r shy…………… I guess
paul
21. Jul, 2010
hey Kenny, look i really like this girl that lives near enough to me and is in my school, but i havent the slighest clue what to do , im not sure whether she likes me or not , she smiles and says hello if we met in corrodor on the way to classes but i dont know if she likes me. id be happy enough for now if i knew she liked me
but i havent the courage really to do anything 
Michael
21. Jul, 2010
Hi Paul,
Just start by asking her how her day is going the next time you see her in the corridor. When she says “hi” you say “hey, how’s your day going?” it really is as simple as that.
The best way to find out if she likes you is to get to know her better. And you can only do that by talking to her more.
Good luck Paul!
daniel
27. Jul, 2010
i kno im shy but i can get over that im 18 i just dont kno how to start a damn conversation. i get nervous and dont say anything
Charle
27. Jul, 2010
Hello again. It’s me. Back for more advice! Ok, this fall semester, I’m rooming with my brother’s best friend and his cousin, which happens to be a girl. Now before I try anything, my question is this, if conditions are favorable(meaning she’s within my age range, tolerable to be around, and single) what would be the best approach to handle this situation? I don’t want anything to develop into something supremely weird because I’ll be living in the same house with her for the next 3-4 months before she moves out!
Rob
31. Jul, 2010
Good advice but I’m just wondering if it means anything if a girl starts asking you these type of questions? I was in the store one time last month buying energy drink so I can make it through the night, work 3rd shift, and the girl at the checkout asked me about the energy drink and what I thought about it. Convo kinda ended there because it was the first time I was buying that brand.