Example questions to ask girls
Posted on 21. Apr, 2009 by Kennedy in How to Talk to Girls
Remember, first impressions are everything. So it’s important to have an open-ended question ready to make YOUR first impression when you see a girl you’re attracted to.
Here are some examples you can use for common situations we have all found ourselves in at one point or another:
At school
- What do you think of this class?
- How well are you doing this semester?
- How much have you completed of this assignment?
- What are your plans for the weekend?
At the gym
- How often do you make it into the gym each week?
- What is your workout routine?
- What is your diet like?
At work
- How do I fill out this report properly?
- Where are some cool places to hang out nearby?
- What are you doing after work tonight?
At a wedding
- How do you know the bride/groom?
- Where is a place we can all go after the reception?
- Where would you want to go on your honeymoon?
For more examples, visit our most popular post on starting a conversation.
We’d like to hear from you. Ask questions or suggest your recommendations for open-ended questions with the rest of the AoG community in the comments below. Well, don’t hesitate. Get to it!
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Kyle
21. Apr, 2009
Sweet! These help a lot.
Fail
09. Jul, 2009
You probably get slapped in the face alot.
Michael
09. Jul, 2009
@ Fail
Fail is referring to a comment that I deleted off this post. He is right, the guy would have been slapped.
confusion
29. Jul, 2009
i have a girl who i thinks real cute in a class of mine, and i dont know how to just start talking to her. wouldnt it be weird sayin, so how do you like this class?.
Dan
29. Jul, 2009
My biggest problem isn’t necessarily starting conversations. Instead, its keeping them going. I’m not the best conversationalist, so when I ask an open ended question like, “What do you think of this class?” and the girl answers with, “Its good” or “I like it.” I’m kinda stumped and don’t know where to go from there (and eventually get off the topic of class).
If the girl gives me something to work with, I’m fine. But if not, I got nothing. Any tips?
Michael
29. Jul, 2009
@ Confusion
I don’t think that would be weird at all. That’s a good way to start a conversation; don’t let your fear tell you otherwise.
Best of luck man!
Michael
29. Jul, 2009
@ Dan
That’s a common problem. The trick is to develop your conversational prowess over time. One great way to do that is to use talking props. Talking props are items of interest that you can comment on. These can be unique things & environments in your surrounding area including (but not limited to) her clothing, your clothing, a book, someone’s car, etc. You get the idea.
To find out more about talking props, read our post “How to start a conversation.” Use the search box up above to find it.
Nick
12. Aug, 2009
Dude…I’m sorry but if you went up to most of the girls in my town and asked half of these questions, the only response you would get was a stupid look. Going up to someone you dont know and asking them what they would like to do on their honeymoon or what their diet is like? Come on. Thats just creepy.
Wisconsinbigdog
12. Aug, 2009
Any were besides the gym yeah it would be creepy, but the gym is the place were people talk about those kinds of things, I wouldn’t mind someone asking me that at all but that’s just me…if you woulnt want to talk about that why go to the gym? A lot of girls would see it as you think they are in good shape, am I wrong?
Wisconsinbigdog
12. Aug, 2009
It’s all about location location location, using where you are as a talking point.
tabby719
08. Sep, 2009
i realy like a girl and iv known her for years but we never talk. i want to know what i should do because last time i told somebody how i felt they put me down. gently i might add but it still hurts ya know.
any advice please?
P.s im no good at talking to girls face to face as i go all red and just cant think of owt to say at all.
Kennedy
08. Sep, 2009
@Nick
You’d be surprised at what works and what doesn’t. Trust me on that.
Kennedy
08. Sep, 2009
@ tabby719
Let’s keep it simple here at first. Instead of asking her out or telling her you like her, just start with the conversation. What is something you guys have in common? Do you go to the same school? Do you hang out at similar places? Are you in the same classes? Let’s start here and work our way up, how does that sound? Find out something about her that you can start a conversation with, and come back to us. We’ll help you get started from there!
tabby719
09. Sep, 2009
thanks kenedy ill get bak to you wen i try.
thanks agen.
skinnykid
15. Sep, 2009
i recently joined a college for my graduation. i find a lot of cool girls there of different courses. any suggestions on how to talk to them in an impressing way???
Michael
18. Sep, 2009
@ Skinny Kid
The best way to make an impression on a girl is to be confident in yourself. Girls like guys who are confident. That means you shouldn’t be shy and sit in the corner of the class.
Talk to the girls by confidently introducing yourself. Then make them laugh by showing your great sense of humor.
Just remember confidence is the key!
Good luck.
tabby719
19. Sep, 2009
hi thanks the advice worked nd we have our first date on friday.
great help thanks guys.
lomonop
20. Sep, 2009
hi i’m in a bit of a mess. theres this girl that knows i like her a lot and two days ago asked if i love her and i do realy and i sed this to her altho she she likes me but isnt sure about love now im meeting her tomorow and im scared but dunt no why. also i have no idea wot to do or say. please help.
skinnykid
21. Sep, 2009
thank u so much michael
Kennedy
21. Sep, 2009
@tabby719
That’s fantastic news! Congratulations – I hope it goes well!
Kennedy
21. Sep, 2009
@lomonop
Dude, take a deep breath! The word ‘love’ gets thrown around a lot – especially when we’re younger. When you see her, you can act just like you did before she dropped the big question on you. There’s nothing wrong with telling her how you feel – especially if she came right out and asked. Just be yourself the next time you see her, and everything else will fall into place. Just remember to breathe!
lomonop
25. Sep, 2009
thanx kenedy i dunt think ill forget that bit haha.
Why me
08. Oct, 2009
Ok this one is confusing, but I will try and explain. I’m in a class (military) and have been for about 8 months. In this class is a girl that i really like, but she has never shown any interest, at all….. ever. So I wrote it off as a lost cause. Hoever, about 3 weeks ago I got moved to a new class and now she’s all over me. She went from saying a total of 2 or 3 words to me all year to having lunch off base with me, cornering me akwardly in halls and classrooms when no one else is around, and various other confusing things for me to try and understand. I would loveit if it wern’t for the simple fact that she is married! And I am, unfortunatly, and actually genuinly good guy, so my morals don’t allow me to tell her how I feel or to respond to these “advances” as I see them, because she is already taken. However, shes only 19 and already getting married, to a total jerk by the by, and he lives like 2000 miles away. But all of that aside, I still can’t do anything bu hold my head in my hands. HELP!
Why Me
08. Oct, 2009
Edit: I meant to say she is engaged, she isn’t married yet
jp
29. Oct, 2009
i like a girl in my english class and i can’t seem to be able talk to her, my freinds say she likes me, so that makes me even more nervous, so i have no idea what to do,please help
Charle
11. Nov, 2009
Agh! I like a girl in my drawing class. She hasn’t started talking to me until near the end of the semester. She’s very pretty and simple minded, plus very talented in drawing. The only problem is she talks to me sometimes or sometimes notices me. We walk back generally on the same path together due to the fact we both live in the same dorm building after drawing class. I intentionally leave class simultaneously to her somewhat? to try to strike up a conversation with her. Problems are:
1.I can’t keep a conversation going with her.
2.She’s destined to pick a different class next semester and I will see her less.
3.She talks to me very little sometimes. Either I should start the conversation or she should?
So I need advice. Any type of direction I should go in?
I did think of other questions I could ask her, but I don’t want to give off that creepy stalker vibe, due to the fact tons of guys in my class hit on her because, again, she’s very pretty.
Greg
07. Dec, 2009
hey, i have already met this girl and i think she likes me yeh, i got her phone number and her facebook, but i dont wanna phone her cos that seams really wierd soo i have been thinking for ages on what to text/IM andthe only things i can think of are well not brill lol any help?
Confused
16. Dec, 2009
If your dating a girl that wants to move to the next stage from making out how would you go about doing that without coming off as a creep?its my first real relationship and i realy like this girl
Cluless
05. Feb, 2010
There’s this girl that I know, and we’re both in this musical. She’s everything that I like in a woman, and it’s so obvious that I like her that practically everyone I know is telling me to ask her out! It’s so obvious that when the director of the musical told me to pick a partner, the girl from the other pair of dancers suggested her, saying we were “perfect for eachother!”. I agreed, elated on the inside but indiffernt on the outside. Even the female diirector suggested that something might “develop”. I think it might be too obvious because now whenever she sees me she says “hi” with a wave and a smile. I don’t know what to do! Did I also mention that my hand lives at her hip during our dance? (thank goodness for jeans!) I’m really nervous that she’s just being nice to me as a charity case. HELP!
Kennedy
08. Feb, 2010
@ Cluless
Since you two are spending a lot of time together, why don’t you get to know her a little first? Just ask her some questions about herself – what she likes to do, where she hangs out on the weekend, those kinds of things. These are good because you get to know her a little bit and will inevitably share a few things with her about yourself as well. Getting to know her will open up your options a bit when you DO ask her out. Is there a movie coming out that she wants to see? Offer to take her. Does she like taking her dog to the park on the weekends? Bring yours along and you two can meet up. Does she like coffee? Tell her you’ll buy her some Starbucks one evening after school while you two go over your lines for the musical.
You have the advantage here in that you two are around each other enough that you can take the time to get to know the girl before you make the big leap to asking her out. Remember, just take a deep breath and go for it!
Cameron
27. Feb, 2010
Just Saying: Kennedy, you are a great guy and give great advice
I sound gay there lol but You help a lot of guys out there (including myself) and I just wanted to thank you fro your generous help 
Charle
28. Mar, 2010
Ok, so I finally met back up with my good friend Abbey last name. She’s a very nice girl, and getting a hug from her really made my weekend waay better, compared to what it is now. I would love to hang out with her again, but I don’t want to do it in a fashion where I seem desperate. I’ve talked to her about hanging out and being appreciative that I’ve seen her again, but I don’t know where to go after this. Please help!
Anthony
10. Apr, 2010
I like this girl and dont know what to say to her. I comment her smile, her eyes, I dont really know what to say. I tryr to ge her but she is still attracted to my friend who doesnt really even like her. oh and by the way we are all 13. Any help?
Anthony
10. Apr, 2010
Edit: I dont wanna say the wrong thing cause everytime I do she ignores me for quite awhile.
Kennedy
13. Apr, 2010
@ Charle
Keep it simple! Ask her to go see a movie or get some ice cream. That’s nothing too crazy, and if she’s into you she is apt to go for it. Good luck!
Kennedy
13. Apr, 2010
@ Anthony
You won’t want to hear this, but you need to take a step back from this young lady. Sounds like she is just giving you the run around. Take a week away from her and see how things are between you two…
Anthony
23. Apr, 2010
Hmm, yea, i barely talk to her anymore. its kinda… eh. but i need advice on how to talk to girls that i just meet, cause i know many girls and have had past relationships but like when i go to the mall and someone is pretty there, what should i say to them and how can i get courage to do so?
Charlie
20. Aug, 2010
I’m 14 years old. There’s this girl that I think it’s cute but I don’t really know what questions I could ask her. Any tips?
Charlie
20. Aug, 2010
She usually sits a few seats from me, but I don’t know what type of questions I should ask her to keep the conversation going. Help please
mike
17. Sep, 2010
theres a girl i really like but this other guy likes her as well. when ever i go to talk to her he ether beats me to it,or just puts me down / embaresses me in front of her what should i do?
avn412
16. Oct, 2010
me and this girl, have been talking for about 3 months. im 16 she’s 15, and in the beginning we both liked each other, very heavy flirty, talking every night. but she had a boyfriend.. so we still talked all the way up to them breaking up about a month ago. i know this girl like the back of my hand, every detail in her life. and vice versa.. we completely understand each other. so i told her i liked her alot about 2 days ago, because i figured it was time. and ever since we started talking. ive always been the nicing guy ever to her. letting her make her own desicions but being assertive, flirted, compliments.. everyhting. so when i told her i liked her a couple days ago, she ddoesnt like me like that. but she used to..? now she is sTaRtInG to like another guy and while we are STILL talking… im geting VERY frustrated of why she does not like me.. i neeed help to get her to come back to me. and to like me again..
my ideas..
stop talking to her. POSSIBILY let them date and see if she comes back, but act like im having a good time without her
i just want her to REALLY regret not picking me. and want her to hang out with me and be with me, and not him. :’(
i realllllllllly like this girl. PLEASE help
B.G.T.2
21. Oct, 2010
There’s this really cute girl in my class and I don’t have any confidence to say anything but “hey”,”how’s it goin”,”BYE”. So pretty much I need help with my confidence to actually start a conversation instead of a greeting and a bye and just sitting there in an awkward of silence.
Still cluless
12. Dec, 2010
Hey, it’s cluless again. So obviously, things aren’t going as I’d hoped. There’s another musical coming up. And in addition to that, I see her for at least twenty minutes every morning. But I’m still a gutless wimp. I’ve associated more with her and I believe that our relationship has grown stronger, but I am broke and even if I wasn’t, I’m still “too young” to take her anywhere! She makes those friendly joking insults that friends do to eachother, which I feel brings us to a more trusting level. But I’ve found another problem. I’m too tall! She was extremely happy and was about to jump up and hug me, then she made a 90 degree turn in the air. I asked her what it was about and she said, and I quote, “I was going to jump on you, but you’re too tall.” I don’t know how I can get around that. And since I know you’re going to ask, I’m 6’1″ and she’s somewhere like 5’8-10″. Help!
wow
12. Dec, 2010
Hi. so, over the summer me and this girl were bestfriends. we hung out almost every day. and on days we didnt hang out, we would text eachother all day. but since school started we never hang out and when we text, she doesnt really talk. she says “haha”, “lol”. “ok”, etc to almost everything and the conversations last about 10 minutes and its just disappointing. any advice?
kenneth
18. Dec, 2010
i like this girl in my gym class.(we are freshmen in highschool). i dont know what to say to her. iv never talked to her before. i dont know if she even knows my name. there is not much to talk about in gym class. and she is usually with 2 or 3 friends. i dont know when to talk to her and about what . we are both 14 and i have never talked to a girl a liked. i dont want it to seem so obvious . please help
Emily
05. Jan, 2011
@ kenneth
Okay i know i shouldnt be here (being a straight girl and all) but its interesting i think to see all these guys talkinv about there emotions like this! I know that i for one hate the macho man with no feelings.
In more relativity to your problem, i can tell you for a fact that girls honestly dont think your a fool for just going right up to them, they actually think its really brave. So just yknow, go with it for a bit… If your honestly too shy maybe talk to her friends? Any decent girl will keep the fact that you like someone a secret, trust me.
So good luck
jack
09. Jan, 2011
ok your not soppost to be here but i got my own problem people think (mostly girls)im eithe goth/emo or gay i asked one girl out and she laughed and walked away im just telling my story and dying a loner mostly
Wes
24. Jan, 2011
Ok so, i have liked this girl for a long time, and i can’t seem to stop. She is very pretty and a really nice girl. At my school, most people prejudge me as some bad boy that does drugs and stuff, but im actually a clean str8 A&B student, i just wear black clothes and have long black hair. She might have the wrong idea about me. I got her number and we talked, but it seemed like she wasnt that into me. Whenever i would talk to her in person, my mind would go blank, and my face would be really red, and i could think of nothing to say. I was always the one to text/IM her, and start the conversations. At first i thought she was in to my best friend, but she just started going out with this kid i hate, and im on the verge of kicking his ass. I don’t think the relationship will last, but i have been wrong about stuff like that in the past…alot. Please, i need help. what should i do.
P.S. i have tried to stop liking her before, or start talking to other girls, but it doesn’t seem to work:(
Wes
24. Jan, 2011
and by the way were both 14
Keven
04. Feb, 2011
ok well im 13 and i have a girlfriend. its going great and we havnt been going out for too long but i just dnt know when to do what. like take her hand, hug her, kiss her. i just dnt know!! heellpp??