A question from a reader:

Hi, I am having a huge problem!. I go to a Physical Fitness place and one of the girls who works at the front desk I am very attracted to. Other than the Hi , how are you?, bye we don’t speak its more of a courtesy thing.

I don’t even know her name. What is it I can do?

Answer

Your right, that is a huge problem. A lot of guys like the girl at the front desk of a gym - apparently they’re all gorgeous!

The thing to remember here is that she probably get hit on all the time by other men who are members of the gym. This could mean she is a more difficult target.

Here’s what I would do. You said you don’t know her name. The next time you go to the front desk to check in, say something like “You know this is a little embarrassing. I’ve been coming here a while now & I don’t even know your name.” She should then introduce herself. Bam - 1st problem solved.

Here are some things to remember if you’re going to do this: Make sure she isn’t busy talking to other people or there’s a line of members waiting to check in. After the introduction, make whatever conversation you have brief - only about 1 minute. Keep the conversations short during the first few you have. What you’re doing is building up familiarity. Once the both of you know each other through these short conversations, you can graduate up to a longer one.

As far as holding a conversation, remember some universal truths. People typically like to talk about themselves. Don’t bring up politics or religion (during the first conversations), they can cause arguments. Don’t ask anything personal (do you have a boyfriend?, etc.).

I hope this helps! Good luck!