When is the best time to approach a girl at school?
Posted on 15. Nov, 2007 by Michael in How to Talk to Girls
Question:
How would you approach a girl at school? When do you think is the best time to approach her (after school)? Also, how should I present myself (Hi! I’m a guy from your chemistry class.. My name is ‘X’ )?
Shawn, a new reader
Answer:
You want to make sure to catch her at the most convenient time for her, not yourself - that’s the best time to approach. Don’t try it when she’s in a hurry or in the middle of conversation with others.
You’re probably going to roll your eyes at this but the best way to approach her is to be yourself. Yeah, I know, you’ve heard that before. Yeah, I know, you might be thinking, “But being myself doesn’t work!”
Trust me, it works!
Just play it cool, by which I mean don’t look nervous. Go up to her and say “Hey, you’re in my chemistry class. I’m Shawn.” She’ll respond, probably by introducing herself. When she does try to keep the conversation going using some of the techniques in the article How to start a conversation.
Good luck man!
Shy to Talk, a fan of AdviceOnGirls.com
ehis
18. Feb, 2008
Please am a guy of 21 and i don’t have a girl friend because i don’t really know to start a conversation with girls and things to talk about,but most times i try to start but at middle i find out that i don’t something to talk about and make my date bored.
Please i will be very very happy if people help me out here, i’ ll appreciate it so much. Thanks
Michael
03. Mar, 2008
Welcome Ehis. Sorry for the late reply but my personal life has been hectic lately. Again, I am really sorry and I hope the information I provide is helpful.
I know how you feel. I think your problem might be simple and yet complicated at the same time. It could be that you are simply psyching yourself out. It sounds as if you’re putting too much pressure on yourself to come up with something witty/funny/interesting to say. This keeps you from enjoying the natural ebb and flow of a good date/conversation.
The key is to stay calm and have a good time. If you can do those two things, your date will feel more at ease (not to mention yourself) and before you know it the both of you will be laughing and having fun.
Remember, don’t worry so much about it. Concentrate on being relaxed, the fun will follow.
Good luck Ehis!
Emmy
01. May, 2008
Hey! I’m a girl, and I wanted to see what guys think. Being yourself really does work…because it shows the girl that your not afraid to be who you really are around her. Ask the girl questions, and she will answer them, and then you will get into a great conversation. Ask her about her schedule, her friends, and possible vacations that she has recently had. Coming from a girl, this advice really works!!!
Try it out. Good luck on your next date!
A
23. Sep, 2008
The past couple weeks, ive been seeing this girl around school that I really like. Shes looked at my a couple of times, like, she liked me =D. How do i go up and start a convercation with her? Can anyone give me convercation tips/ideas?
Scott
29. Sep, 2008
I really like a girl at school but she has a boyfriend whos 17 and shes been going out with him for 7months now. She doesnt know how I feel about her but I just dont know what to do I dont want to cause any hassel
kevin
16. Nov, 2008
i really like this girl at my school cept my best friend does too and she thinks im kinda freaky cuz i intimidate people who insult me help!!!
Tan
04. Dec, 2008
I’ve known this girl for 4 years now, but really only as an acquaintance. She’s in my homeroom which meets for only 20 minutes every Thursday. I sat next to her last year in a class and we talked a little but then I got really shy. I don’t know anything about her. I’ve really liked her since then but I don’t know how to talk to her. What should I do?
Jared
02. Jan, 2009
Dudes can u not see this won’t work. If u want real dating advice get it from a proffesional.
Some offer free newsletter on how to get dates. and trial ebooks
two good ones are David Deangelo and Bob Martz
andy
09. Apr, 2009
booze helped me.
Joke.
obviously tempting
Jon
06. May, 2009
What if your already her friend, and she has another guy giving her compliments, asking her out and trying miserably to get her to like him? Iv been making my attention hard to get (like an article from here suggested) and I joke around her a lot, I “intercepted” a conversation between her and another of her friends (who is also my friend) in which she put that all my comments were really funny, but I dont know how to move this along quicker, AND I have limited time. What to do?
Jared, I get David’s newsletter even tho Im not 18 or whatever, and if you are paying attention, youll notice I use the cocky & funny routine.
Michael
07. May, 2009
@ Jon
The only way to get it to move along quicker is to just ask her out or for her phone number. Sounds to me like you’re doing well so far. Adding a “time frame” to this equation does make it a bit tougher.
FYI, I wouldn’t put too much faith in what Jared says. This stuff does work - just ask the AoG community and my friends.
Charle
21. Jan, 2010
My faith in girls has kind of died down a bit. I have come to the conclusion that girls I’m attracted to only are attracted to complete morons, like my friend dirk who views women as objects. Why is it so difficult for decent, respectful, and prioritized guys like myself to be noticed? I would like to say I adapt appropriately, but don’t always execute correctly to talk to a decent looking girl. And usually the ones I fall for either fall into the two categories:
1.Have a boyfriend
2.Are more trouble than they’re worth.
I truly believe girls will be my downfall in my life. They are the greatest thing that God has put here on Earth, but at the same time, they cause more misery than anything for me. What will it take for me to have a more optimistic view on girls?
Kennedy
24. Jan, 2010
@ Charle
Hang in there man! Patience is really important when it comes to girls. A lot of girls really go for those knuckle-head types when they’re younger. As girls mature a bit they tend to look more towards the qualities you have versus the “objective” types.
Just don’t change who you are to bring in the ladies. You’ll end up being unhappy in the end.
Be patient my friend, the right one will be there eventually!
Zafeer Nasir
25. Mar, 2010
that’s really amazing… but i want to know about some more things… can any one of you tell me about those???