How to know if she wants you to kiss her

Posted on 28. Aug, 2007 by Michael in Dating Tips

Knowing when to kiss a girl and when not to kiss a girl can make or break a potential relationship. Many guys just don’t know when they should lean in for that first kiss. We think, “Does she want me to kiss her? Will she be offended if I tried? Will she knee me in the junk if I went for a kiss?” Well there’s one sure giveaway that will tell you that she wants you to kiss her. I call it the “look.”

The look is usually brief, subtle, and very simple. She simply shifts her eyes from yours and looks at your mouth for a split second then looks back at you. That is a sure sign she wants to kiss you. It’s as simple as that.

When she looks at your mouth she’s giving you an unconscious signal (body language) that she wants to kiss you. Subconsciously, she’s imagining what it’s like to kiss you. So when you’re out on that next date pay close attention to her, especially when you’re saying goodnight, and watch for the look.

165 Responses to “How to know if she wants you to kiss her”

Michael

28. Feb, 2009

@ DeWayne
If you like or love her back, ask her out on a formal date.
anna

28. Feb, 2009

heyy.
well….i am a 13 year old girl and i am really having some guy problems.
i have had 4 people ask me out, but i keep turning them down.
two of them said they wanted to kiss me.
i would kiss them, and believe me, i REALLY want to, but im too scared!
i dont know why i am such a wimp about it, if i want to kiss someone soo bad….
do you know what i can do so that i wont be scared of guys??
Michael

28. Feb, 2009

@ Anna
You don’t know me but I’m going to answer your question as if you’re my little sister.
It’s very possible that even if you want to kiss a guy, you might not be totally comfortable with it. I think that may be what’s going on with your situation. If that’s the case, then I suggest that you hold off on kissing these guys.
The fact is that you are only 13. Believe it or not, most 13 year old girls have not kissed any guys. Your friends might tell you they have but they also might be lying.
Don’t rush into your first kiss. It should be something that is special and shared with a special guy. Don’t force it to happen just because you think you should. I know plenty of girls who waited till they were 16, 17, even 18 years old before they had their first kiss. There’s nothing wrong with that.
kaylyn

09. Mar, 2009

hay you guys i need help i am 13 and i have been dating a guy that is 15 and i want to kiss him who do i tell him
Michael

09. Mar, 2009

@ Kaylyn
If you’re 13, the only type of kissing you should be doing is a kiss on the cheek. I know you might not like that answer. But if I had a little sister or a daughter, that’s the type of big brother advice I would give.
Ryan

05. Apr, 2009

would it be a good place at the movies to kiss her?
Michael

06. Apr, 2009

@ Ryan
Personally, I don’t recommend the movies. It’s such a public place that she might be too self-conscience to enjoy it. That goes for you too.
You can always try after the movies when the both of you are alone.
Alexander

13. Apr, 2009

Hey, im 14 and i have kissed alot of girls but the girl im dating right now is far more special to me then the other girls ive dated (that might have sounded rude un-intentionaly but its true). (and shes 13, i dunno if that would be any help for my answere). She told me she wants to kiss me and idefinatly want to kiss her to. But Im not sure when and were, We were gonna rent a movie and watch it in my room and i was going to do it there but she wasnt aloud to hang out that day, Now i dont kknow when or where i should do it. Plz help, i need to know when, where, how and signs that she wants me to. PLZ HELP ME.
Michael

13. Apr, 2009

@ Alexander
It sounds to me like you just need to relax a bit. The best first-kisses are the ones that feel natural. So you really shouldn’t plan for this. Just let it happen naturally.
It can happen anywhere, as long as the mood is right. It can be outside in a nice park or during the walk home from dinner or coffee. The way you know when to kiss her is when she’s really close to you and there’s a prolonged silence between the both of you. When that time comes, just lean slowly in close to her. The rest should come naturally.
Good luck man!
that one guy

20. Apr, 2009

im 13 (guy) too but what seems to work for me is to just take her outside between classes or anywhere your alone
louie

29. Apr, 2009

Im 15 and im taking a girl to the movies but shes shy and she hasnt had her first kiss so how do I know if she wants to be kissed and how can I make her feel comfertible and not ackwerd?
Michael

30. Apr, 2009

@ Louie
To keep her from feeling awkward, simply mind your manners and don’t pressure her to kiss you. A kiss is at its best when it isn’t forced. That means you should bug her to kiss you and avoid putting her in an awkward situation.
As far how to know if she wants to kiss you, read the post above.
ishy

02. May, 2009

hi i am 15 and i am dating a girl but i been dating for about 4 month’s but i think she cheating because every time she always talk about boys nd when i hang aroung with her and her mates , her mats says she hugs boiis that never met before and she anit talking me like 100% its like 25% and i am really mad and scared at the same time .
i wish someone could understand me
plz can u help
thnx if u try to so soo
Michael

02. May, 2009

@ Ishy
First of all, you should never jump to conclusions. You said you “think” she’s cheating on you but you really don’t know. Before you get all bent out of shape, you should talk to her (not her friends) to find out for sure. Just ask her point blank the next time the both of you are alone. Say, “Hey. I’ve noticed things between us seem to feel a little weird. Is everything okay? Are you happy in our relationship? Do you want to date other guys?”
Second, it’s okay to feel scared. It’s perfectly normal in your situation. Just don’t let that fear cause you to do something stupid. If it turns out that she does want to date other guys, accept it. Don’t freak out and get angry in front of her. Just say “okay.” Then move on with your life. You’ll be free to date other girls too. Which is good because you can meet a girl who just wants to date you and only you.
Good luck Ishy!
ishy

03. May, 2009

thnx a lot
ur the man but i wish u could be next me to help me because i am a shy boy and i don’t no wot to say or when to hug her.
i think its hard for dating people.
thanks for helping me out
ill rate u 5* out 5
Michael

03. May, 2009

@ Ishy
Thanks man but you are more than capable of doing this on your own. I believe in you! The first time is hard but it does get easier, I promise!
ishy

03. May, 2009

thnx a lot michael
thankx i can count on u
ur the one
but wen i ask her if she like us to be together she said yes and its going to a long time till we fall out
ur a 5star mann
thankz take care of ur self
aubrey

09. May, 2009

hi am 17 and going out with this girl who loves me very much but she is shy i think and has not had her first kiss neither have i and now i dont know if she wants to be kissed or not
confused
PLZ HELP ME OUT
Kennedy

09. May, 2009

@ aubrey

Every girl wants to be kissed, so don’t fear! Try to make it romantic – sitting on the front porch under the stars, a night at movies, or something else that involves just the two of you.
After that, it’s up to you to put forth a little confidence. Don’t worry about asking to kiss, I would just go for it. Take her breath away! It’ll be a kiss she’ll never forget!
Good Luck – you can do it!
Alex

02. Jun, 2009

I’m 15 years old and I recently saw a girl at a safety party and I just couldn’t work up the nerve to talk to her. She is one of the most beautiful girls I have ever saw. But I just let the opportunity get away from me. I have been feeling pretty down the last couple of days for not trying to talk to her. If I see her again what should I do?
Kennedy

03. Jun, 2009

@ Alex

Check out my reply in the How To Start a Conversation article!
Whatnext

21. Jun, 2009

There was obviously some work leading up to it, but I did what the above article said, and it worked! The only problem I have is that I want to talk to her again without it being awkward and without making it sound like I’m just talking to her again because I know I can get a kiss from her. I’ve always genuinely liked her a lot, but the party was the first time we had kissed, so I just don’t know where to go from here so that we can keep talking without it being awkward and eventually have it turn into a relationship.
Whatnext

21. Jun, 2009

Also, should I bring up the kiss from last night (which was the party) or should I just not talk about it?
Kennedy

22. Jun, 2009

@ Whatnext
Try asking her out to do something that involves just the two of you. Go to a movie, have some coffee or invite her to go to the pool with you. If she’s interested in you then chances are she’ll want to see you again. And there’s no need to bring up specifics about the party. You may something like, ‘that party was pretty crazy”, but I’d leave it at that. Instead focus on getting to know her a little better. Find out what she’s interested in, what her plans are for the summer, etc. That should steer the conversation to something a bit more comfortable for both of you.
Good luck man!
Whatnext

23. Jun, 2009

I called her and asked her out for tomorrow night, but she didn’t answer. A few hours later, she texted me, “hey, you called?” I texted her back, about an hour later and said, “yeah, I was wondering if you wanted to go to dinner and a movie tomorrow.” (which was stupid because I should have just called her.) And she said that she already had plans (which is expected because it was only one day’s notice.) My predicament now is that I’m leaving for a week on Saturday, and I won’t be able to see her before then, so I said we’d try and make plans once I get back, but she didn’t respond. I won’t be able to call her while I’m away, but I might be able to text, so my question is what should I do between now and a few days after I get back (which is when I plan on asking her out again) that will increase my chances of her wanting to go out with me? Should I not text her at all between now and then, or should I text her just enough so that we still keep a little contact?
Michael

23. Jun, 2009

@ Whatnext
I wouldn’t stress too much about trying to keep her interested. You’re only going away for one week, not one month.
Since she didn’t respond to your last text, I say you wait to contact her until you get back.
After you return, wait one day until you call her. Yes, call don’t text. Asking a girl out via a text isn’t very manly. If she doesn’t answer, leave her a message that simply says, “Hey it’s me. I was hoping we could talk. Call me back.” When she returns your call, then ask her out.
If she doesn’t return your call, I say it’s time to move on. Why? She already knows you like her. If she didn’t return your call, you can assume she’s telling you in a very passive way that she isn’t interested.
Best of luck man!
Whatnext

23. Jun, 2009

Alright thanks guys! Sounds good!
Andrew

29. Jun, 2009

Ok so here it goes I’m 15 and i really like this girl a couple years ago i noticed what you would call the look. Heck she practically spelled it out for me but before that i had never kissed a girl and i was scared and after i left her that day we didn’t really talk much. Realy just because we didn’t see much of each other. Now thanks to her cousin we have kinda started talking again and i find out i still have feeling and I’m not sure if she does. (she also just broke up with her boy friend and i don’t want to look like the rebound type) We have gone out on what you could call a date several times but nothing very serious you know like the mall a movie and lunch. Not like a tansy dinner(although i would like that). I was just wondering when would be a good time to try harder to regain those feelings she once had for me and go in for that kiss that seals our relationship for the time being. (keep it in mind I’m not even sure if she likes me the way she used to.)
Andrew

29. Jun, 2009

i am so glad i found this website and i really hope someone can help me
Kennedy

29. Jun, 2009

@ Andrew

It seems like she is somewhat interested in you if she’s still doing things with you on a somewhat regular basis. Maybe you can see about trying a fancy dinner, or come up with a creative thing the two of you can do that’s somewhat romantic. Find a spot where you can watch a sunset and just talk. Take a walk with her one evening around your neighborhood. Something simple that gives you two time to just focus on each other. If things are going well, you’ll know when the time is right to plant that kiss.
Good luck out there. Let us know how it goes!
Andrew

29. Jun, 2009

ok ya if you end up wondering ya i have posted in this section 3 times but i have another question what do you do if you really love someone at the moment and you have had this love for a couple years so it hasnt failed yet so makes you wonder if its real, but you have this girl you love alot but she goes and tells you, “no matter how long you wait for me i will never love you… in that way” ‘ i know i am starting to seem desperate being that i have posted so many time but the truth is i kinda am so when someone finaly responds… this is probably stupid of me to do but could you mesage me or -call me things are just unravleing fast and im scared and to think i’m only 15… i really hope this passes. Still can i have some help. My number is you text and or call me froim this number (preferably text)
Andrew

29. Jun, 2009

by the way thanks for the help on the last one that was greaat advise.
Andrew

29. Jun, 2009

Oh and i don’t really want to give up on her in the slightest she sais it doesn’t matter i say i don’t care i would wait for as long as possible unless i found someone i love equally or more. Not to seem selfish. But at the moment i know i want her and no other.
Andrew

30. Jun, 2009

Ok guys i think i have come up with some kind of plan. I need to know if you guys think this is all right or if i should do something differently. So what I will do is i will take the tips given in “how to make a girl interested you to a bit of an extreme if possible. But before i take the next step i need to know if it sounds good and what your position on making someone jealous and how to tell if they are the jealous type. Once again i am sorry for straying away from the main topic if there is a different forum to o to please tell me.
Michael

30. Jun, 2009

@ Andrew
This may not be what you want to hear but it’s definitely what I would do. I would move on to another girl.
If she honestly said “no matter how long you wait for me i will never love you… in that way” then you have your answer. I’m not trying to be harsh but a time comes when you have to move on. If a girl told me that, I would be like “OK. I’m going to get on with my life and find a girl that is interested in me.”
Move on my man. I wouldn’t waste my time trying to get a girl to like me that clearly isn’t interested.
Andrew

30. Jun, 2009

Ok thanks man i really needed. That but I’m still kinda of curios of how you can tell if a girl is the jealous type.
NeedsHelpWithGirls

30. Jun, 2009

Hey,
You may recognise me from How to Start a Conversation. I’m going on the second date in a week and I just wanted to know if this would be an okay time to kiss her or should I wait. I don’t mean a full out tongue kiss, just a cheek or short lip one. Thanks!
Michael

01. Jul, 2009

@ Andrew
All girls are the jealous type. But if she’s honestly not interested in you, you’re wasting your time.
Kennedy

01. Jul, 2009

@ Andrew

Keep your chin up, bud. I think I’ve been in love with about a thousand different girls since I was your age. Mike is right – it’s probably better to move on to someone else at this point. Believe me when I say that there will come along a girl that will be as much in love as you with her. And there will be awesomeness.
Kennedy

01. Jul, 2009

@ NeedsHelpWithGirls

Sounds like you’re trying to be proactive. I like it!
At the end of the night, when you’re dropping her off or walking her to her doorstep – that will probably be your best chance to give her that little peck that you’re looking for. And you are right – keep it a simple peck on the lips. Don’t kiss her on the cheek. Go for the gold!
NeedsHelpWithGirls

02. Jul, 2009

Thanks! I’ll tell you how it goes.
Kennedy

03. Jul, 2009

@NeedsHelpWithGirls
Fantastic! Can’t wait to hear about it!
NeedsHelpWithGirls

06. Jul, 2009

I did what yousaid after I walked her home. She blushed a litttle but then she said ‘Well bye.’ and went inside. Is that good? How long should I wait for a more long kiss? What should I say next time I see her? Thanks!
NeedsHelpWithGirls

06. Jul, 2009

Oh and just a reminder we’re 13 and she’s turning fourteen soon and I just turned 13.
Kennedy

06. Jul, 2009

@ lavi

If you’re not comfortable in the relationship anymore then it’s time to bail. You’re only making it harder on everyone involved. And if you feel like you are in danger at all, then get an adult involved – a parent, teacher, older sibling, police officer, somebody. You shouldn’t ever have to be afraid of ending a relationship. Once you have that behind you then you can begin looking at yourself and figuring out what to do next.
Good luck. Breakups can be tough.
Kennedy

06. Jul, 2009

@ NeedsHelpWithGirls

Haha, well she didn’t slap you, so I guess that’s good, right? Just kidding, that’s awesome! She probably just didn’t see it coming. I would try the short kiss one more time to see how she’s into it. If she leaves those lips puckered out there for half a second after you’re done kissing her, then it’s almost like a green light for a longer one.
Way to go man! We’re proud of you. And high five for going after the older girls.
NeedsHelpWithGirls

06. Jul, 2009

Thanks, I’ll try that!!!
P.S. I’ve always been into older women.
NeedsHelpWithGirls

06. Jul, 2009

Oh and by the way, how do I upload a picture of myself n the thing beside your messages like you have?
memo

06. Jul, 2009

hey i am 15 years old and i am having a lot of problems with my girlfriend ever since i started going out with her she has been saying that i need to talk to her more she say that she tries to have a normal conversation with me and that she just cant. I think i am a little scared to talk to her and say somthing wrong i might lose her. if you can help me i would really appreciate it.
NeedsHelpWithGirls

07. Jul, 2009

Hey, recently I met her at the pool where we met at a swim meet where our siblings were racing, and she said, “Hi, Gavin.” I replied with, “Hey, is anyone you know swimming here?” and she said “Uh huh, my brother. How about you?” I sat down next to her and said, “Me too.” Then we talked until it was over and then she said, “Do you want to hang out here with me and some friends this Thursday?” I said yes, then she hugged me and said bye, then i said see you and rode off.
First of all is this a good conversation, second of all, general advice for this Thursday?
Thanks!!!

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