How to know if she wants you to kiss her
Posted on 28. Aug, 2007 by Michael in Dating Tips
Knowing when to kiss a girl and when not to kiss a girl can make or break a potential relationship. Many guys just don’t know when they should lean in for that first kiss. We think, “Does she want me to kiss her? Will she be offended if I tried? Will she knee me in the junk if I went for a kiss?” Well there’s one sure giveaway that will tell you that she wants you to kiss her. I call it the “look.”
The look is usually brief, subtle, and very simple. She simply shifts her eyes from yours and looks at your mouth for a split second then looks back at you. That is a sure sign she wants to kiss you. It’s as simple as that.
When she looks at your mouth she’s giving you an unconscious signal (body language) that she wants to kiss you. Subconsciously, she’s imagining what it’s like to kiss you. So when you’re out on that next date pay close attention to her, especially when you’re saying goodnight, and watch for the look.
Shy to Talk, a fan of AdviceOnGirls.com
carlos
20. Dec, 2007
i dont know how to kiss at all can u tell me how????
Forrest
03. Feb, 2008
well i like this girl and she is very pretty,but there is only one problem i’m 12 and she is 14 i thinks she likes me because she smiles at me when we talk and laughs alot.she makes me smile.i’m not sure if she really likes me but i want to know we make eye contact alot but i never really payed attention if she looks at my lips.i’m also afraid to ask her out because im afraid that she is 2 years older than me and might say that she likes guys her age and i think i have already told her i like her but i want to go out with her and im not sure how to do it?
Michael
06. Feb, 2008
Hey Forrest,
I don’t want to come off as an “old guy” (I’m not, I’m in my late 20′s) but you first need to realize that you are young. That’s a good thing and a bad thing. The good is that if you make a decision to start overcoming your fear right now, you will be a “ladies man” when you’re older. The bad is that you will definitely go through some ups and downs in your journey.
If you have already told the girl you like her, there is really no need to tell her again. She remembers and knows it. The reason she probably smiles at you is because she knows you like her and she’s flattered. Now she may only like boys her age and she may not; I really don’t know. Chances are she does because she’s probably in 8th or 9th grade and you’re in 6th.
But try this the next time the two of you are by yourselves: Tell her that you think she’s one of the prettiest girls you know. And you would like to take her out to a movie. At the very least you’ll flatter her and that’s never a bad thing!
Also, never be afraid of girls. There just people too!
Glad you found us!
filipina pen pal
26. Feb, 2008
thats a good advice out there Michael.. and girls would love to know how you feel.. we hate chickens lol!!!
Michael
03. Mar, 2008
Hi Filipina,
That’s a little harshly put (chickens) but true.
Girls love confident guys. Remember that all you readers. Girls like confident guys.
Jacob
13. Apr, 2008
here ya go michael, i turn 16 in a month, and theres a chick thats 18, its like 2 years and four months difference between us. Since shes older, she has more of an idea of the guy she wants or likes, dislikes, and all that, and i (evidently) fit the catagory of “likes” since we’ve been to the movies three times, out to dinner four, and ive met the parents…
Only thing keeping me from making it offical is my age…she picks the one thing i cant fix to nail me to the wall on, and i really like her…
Not a new player on the block, but this ones a new one for me haha, so any help would be awesome
Michael
16. Apr, 2008
@ Jacob,
Hi man. I had a friend in your situation when I was in high school.
The thing is, she’s 18 and is very afraid of what her friends will think of her if she’s officially going out with a younger guy. On some level, she’s thinking that her friends will tease her about it. And high school girls can’t stand to be teased about anything let alone boys they like.
It’s obvious that she likes you a lot. The keyword being “a lot.” If she didn’t, I doubt she would introduce you to her parents.
What I suggest would be a gamble. I would tell her straight out something to the effect of, “Hey, I like you. And I’m pretty darn certain you like me too. Let’s make this thing official. I don’t care what your friends think about us. We have fun together and to be truthful, I don’t think you should let your friend’s opinions ruin that. If you’re ready to do this then let’s do it. But, if you’re not sure, then let’s just be friends.”
It is a gamble. She might realize she does want to make it official or she might want to just be friends. Either way, you win. If she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend simply because you are younger, then you’re honestly better off without her. You know you can find some other girl to go out with and have fun.
That’s my 2 cents Jacob. I hope it helps.
Good luck man!
Caitlin
04. May, 2008
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I’ll give you good advice that will help you out alot!
Jacob
12. May, 2008
Well, heres a peice of good news michale, thanks for the help, granted i read this a about three days after i actually did that…w/o the friends part, just flat out told her i liked her and all that…
Hey, but it worked
even if i didnt get back here to check it out, least i picked the smarter path to take on that one lol
Ethan
13. May, 2008
@mike-im having a bit of girlfriend trouble. We have been going out for a month now, but im not sure she likes me as much as she says she does. She hasnt shown any interest in holding hands. i dont know if shes right for me.it might be that im not assertive enough. btw im 14. any advice?
Michael
21. May, 2008
@ Ethan
If your girlfriend is 14 too, it might just be awkwardness. That’s an awkward time for some girls.
Don’t be too assertive (don’t just grab her hand). Start slow. For instance, if the both of you are walking alone (or are alone in general) just ask her if she wants to hold your hand.
If she still doesn’t want to hold your hand, don’t get angry. Just be honest and say something like: “Listen I like you but I don’t think you like me because you don’t show any interest in holding my hand. And I’m cool with that. So, how about we just be friends?”
See if that helps. Good luck Ethan!
ethan
09. Jun, 2008
thanks mike! we started holding hands at some really boring movie. its be en great since then!
Michael
10. Jun, 2008
Congrats Ethan!
Sorry the movie was boring but I’m happy the both of you have started the awesome hand-holding!
koby
17. Jun, 2008
i like this girl in my class and i think she likes me but dosent want people to know cuss we’ve cuddled at a movie at my friends house and nothing any more but i tickle and all that and she just turns in lots like thinking we will just bump lips or something what do i do
btw i am 13 and i know she isnt nevus to do thats stuff she did it to other guys
Michael
22. Jun, 2008
@ Koby
Sorry dude but I don’t understand your question. Can you leave another comment but use some better grammar?
Relationship advice that makes a difference
12. Aug, 2008
Thanks for the easy to read ideas. Very nicely done.
Matt
15. Aug, 2008
hey there is this one girl in my class that I like and I dont think she likes me but i just cant ask her out and I am soo confused about how to approch her because I am afraid she might not be interested. btw i am 13
mike
18. Aug, 2008
hey Michael ! right now im starting like a girl smaaler than me about 5 years iam actually 17 and she 12 and i don’t know what to do cuz i like her like a friend but she’s love me not like me and i don’t what to do with her iam not sure that i love her and i don’t like hurt her feels
please help me Michael give an advice!
alex
26. Aug, 2008
hey michael can you help me
i have a gf and i want to kiss and im not sure if she wants to how do i find out if she wants to. plz help!!!!!! btw were both 12
Courtney Sims
15. Sep, 2008
well, me and this girl r talking but when i do talk its like i run out of things to say or quesgtions to ask. i also asked her out on her b-day yesterday but she said she will tell me the next day. is dat a good thing or a bad thing?
boner
13. Oct, 2008
hump her and dump her
greg
20. Oct, 2008
Michael
i like this girl but she is about 18 months younger than me~ i have some really strong feelings for her and i think she knows it
i have a probklem tho i always run out of conversation with her though and i never know how to lead on fro what we talk about to relationships and possibly us?
i spent about two hours walking around in the rain tonight trying to figure out why and what to do i dont actually care what my friends think because i know that they would always come round to it. she hangs around with us and is really friendly and flirty ~ im seriously confused and its tearing my up..
any help would be appreciated thanks greg
Hossein
22. Oct, 2008
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john
28. Oct, 2008
ok i like this girl we always spend alot of time together and i think she like me alot but like i like her alot but i don,t when i should first kiss her?
mike
30. Oct, 2008
hi everybody ok im 16 years old i like a girl since im 14 but i was a fraid i was fat boy with nerd glasses (dont make fun of me really) no one girl can like me but i loved that girl really after one year i had a good diet i lost a good weight nevermind i took out the glasses just for her from 8 months i took her home phone and im talking to her untill now…
she knows that i love her i told her once and i say it again but i know i didnt say it in a good way i was half afraid im still im shy and afraid i can meet her but im afraid so that our friendship will even end but i think alittle bit she like me she say sometimes a very beautiful things to me such as (do you know the reason letting me to talk to you cuz you are different than all the boys i ever talked to) and she doesnt remmember me it was long timesince she saw me …she is 15 years old…just i wish that you could find me solution
mike
12. Nov, 2008
hey micheal
im 16 years old i like a girl since im 14 but i was a fraid i was fat boy with nerd glasses (dont make fun of me really) no one girl can like me but i loved that girl really after one year i had a good diet i lost a good weight nevermind i took out the glasses just for her from 8 months i took her home phone and im talking to her untill now…
she knows that i love her i told her once and i say it again but i know i didnt say it in a good way i was half afraid im still im shy and afraid i can meet her but im afraid so that our friendship will even end but i think alittle bit she like me she say sometimes a very beautiful things to me such as (do you know the reason letting me to talk to you cuz you are different than all the boys i ever talked to) and she doesnt remmember me it was long time since she saw me …she is 15 years old…just i wish that you could find me solution.plz…
how to become a clown
18. Nov, 2008
Hey, Mike, my man! You just hit the spot there! Yep, that’s how to tell if a girl wants to kiss you or not! I’ve seen looks like that for 25 years now and it never fails!
Matt
19. Nov, 2008
Well i kissed my girlfriend for the first time the other day and how do i know if she wants another. And it’s only been two days since the first do you think thats too early. I need answers
ALEJANDRO
30. Nov, 2008
HEY I NEED SOME ADVISE ON HOW TO TALK TO MY GIRLFREIND CUZ LIKE I DONT REALLY KNOW HOW TO HAVE A GIRLFREID AND NOT KNOW HOW REALLY TO TALK TO HER ABOUT WELL IAM HER FRIST AND I DONT WHANT TO HURT HER FEELINS THE OTHER GIRLS IVE GONE OUT WITH IT DIDNT LAST AND I WOULD LIKE THIS ONE TO LAST PLEASE HELP
Elijah
04. Dec, 2008
Micheal, im 13 and i just don’t know how to say to a girl “do u like me or not” without her freaking out or my friends making fun of me if she says no. Help plzzzzzzzz.
Hi i'm Calvin
08. Dec, 2008
Hey,
I have a girlfriend and i can’t quite tell if she wants to kiss me. I’m too shy/afraid just to try. She kind of hinted that she wanted to kiss me but i’m not so sure. She hasn’t really showed any signs that she wanted to kiss me though when we’re toghether. I really want to kiss her…what should i do?
Elijah
10. Dec, 2008
Michael will you plz respond i need some help.
the watcher
11. Dec, 2008
Elijah…
Why don’t you just ask the girl if she wants to hang out? Take it from there. Look and see how she acts around you so you can tell if she likes you or not. Or you could just ask her, fuck it…you’re 13, what have you got to lose? She wouldn’t freak out and if she did, she’s fuckin retarded. Why would your friends make fun of you? They sound like a bunch of pussies if they’re going to make fun of you for something as stupid and dumb as that.
Spencer
20. Dec, 2008
hey ive been with this girl and im 12 she 13 i cant tell if she likes me if she wants to kiss me its really hard and i dont know wat to do, can someone help?
Spencer
20. Dec, 2008
micheal dat one was @ u
Elijah
20. Dec, 2008
a the watcher thanks man for wat u said, really helped.
Drew
21. Dec, 2008
I love this girl she’s smart pretty but I don’t know when to ask.
If she wants to be my girlfriend.
James
29. Dec, 2008
There is this girl im am going out with, she goes to my school and is in my classes, we talk somewhat and we hug sometimes. Her friends talk about me and her, and she talks about me too. One day her friend comes up to me and says that i should kiss her. I have never kissed before and neither had we. When we hug, she looks at my eyes then at my lips, then back up. I know she wants to kiss me but i dont know how. I also only see her at school and so we cant really be in a quiet place. Im kindave nervous about kissing her, but then again i dont know how.
Any help, please?
Jorge
07. Feb, 2009
ok micheal i got one for you
me and this girl are going to the movies next week and im really nervous. Where im going with this is : how do i know if she wants to make out durring the movie?
Michael
08. Feb, 2009
@ Jorge
You might not like my advice at first but here me out. Don’t make out with your girl at the movies. For one, you’ll annoy all the other movie-goers around you. Don’t be “that guy.” Second, it’s much more fun to make out with your girl when you’re both in a more appropriate environment.
But you can quietly flirt with your girl during the movie. How? Just lightly stroke her arm during the movie. She’ll love that. Plus it will leave her wanting more when the movie is over.
Now, how do you know if she wants you to flirt with her during the movie? Just do a little test flirt and judge her reaction. When she puts her arm on the arm rest of her chair, put your arm next to hers. Make sure your arm is touching hers. If she leaves her arm touching yours, then start flirting!
MEshOo
10. Feb, 2009
Michael U havE GreaT braiN i havE no ProblemS witH mY G/F “CoOl” but when im neeD avdvices i’ll comE herE Don’T Run AwaY
Michael
10. Feb, 2009
Thanks Meshoo. I’m glad you think my brain is great.”
Christian
12. Feb, 2009
Hey Michael,
I was just wondering if you could help me with a mildly irritating situation. My girlfriend just turned 13, I’ve been 14 since summer. She’s said before that she wanted give kissing a try before, but that she’s unsure about it. I’m probably about as nervous as she is, neither one of us have kissed anyone before. Any time she hears about a plan to try sometime or somewhere, she gets out of it. She’s told me to surprise her so she can’t do anything about it. How should I go about this without freaking her out?
James
15. Feb, 2009
Hey Michael,
I like this one girl; she’s my neighbor and is one year younger than me. I am not sure if she likes me, however.
Good signs, I think:
a. She makes a lot of eye contact
b. Sometimes, her pupils are dilated (I’m not sure if that means anything, some people say it matters)
c. She doesn’t mind me in her personal space; often times she enters mine (like when we play “Viva La Vida” on a tiny keyboard, that’s off topic but I feel like mentioning it)
d. Sometimes she walks over to where I am, for no real reason (I think she is just bored)
Bad signs, I think:
a. She doesn’t really text me much.
b. She doesn’t touch me often.
c. She hasn’t said anything or left verbal clues that show that she likes me.
I’ve come up with 2 possibilities:
a. Because she is my neighbor and has been for almost 8 years, she’s just being friendly and nice.
b. She does like me, but is nervous, shy, or inexperienced in relationships (i don’t think she’s ever had a boyfriend)
I really need some help here. I have never had a girlfriend. What can I do to build the relationship, and does she even like me?
I’m leaning toward the first possibility; that she’s just my neighbor and is being friendly.
Please give me some tips Michael!
James
Michael
16. Feb, 2009
@ Christian
It’s ok and normal that both of you are nervous. I recommend that the both of you try kissing only when the both of you are ready.
Try this, the next time the both of you are hanging out on a nice day, take her hand and look deeply into her eyes. Then slowly lean in. If she’s comfortable, she’ll lean in too.
Michael
16. Feb, 2009
@ James
Yep, that is a confusing situation. To be honest I can’t tell if she likes you or not based on your comment. It’s 50/50. But there is a way for you to find out without putting yourself totally out there.
Invite her to a movie or to coffee; just the two of you. Not necessarily as a date but just to do something fun together. If she says yes, then that’s a good sign. But it’s not a definite that she likes you. If things go well on that first time hanging out – which it should – then invite her to hang out again. Do that 2, 3 or 4 times. Chances are by that 4th time of hanging out you’ll either a) know whether or not she likes you or b) you plant the seeds of a relationship in her head.
Best of luck man!
James
16. Feb, 2009
Thank you Michael
Christian
17. Feb, 2009
Sounds good, I’ll let you know how it turns out.
Michael
17. Feb, 2009
@ James & Christian
Let us know how it turns out guys!
Dewayne carlson
28. Feb, 2009
well im 14 and im good friends with this girl that is 9 months older than me and we are at this basketball game playing pep band music and we were talking around and she said i love you. what do i do