Advice on Girls

128 Responses to “How to know if she wants you to kiss her”

1. 

   Michael
   

   07. Jul, 2009

   @ NeedsHelpWithGirls

   It sounds like you’re ready to fly on your own! Seriously, you know what to do. Just do more of the same stuff you did when you talked with her previously. Relax and be yourself. You’ll do fine, I’m sure of it!

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2. 

   Michael
   

   07. Jul, 2009

   @ Memo
   Sounds like you might be too quiet for your own good. You mention that you’re afraid to talk because you think you might say something stupid and cause her to leave you. Well, I can guarantee that if you continue to do what you’ve been doing you WILL lose her. So it’s time to change strategies.
   Become more courageous and just speak what’s on your mind. Tell her about the stuff your into and your hobbies. Let her inside your mind. That way she can get to know you better and connect with you. When she does, more than likely she’ll realize what a unique boyfriend she has and that she wants to stay with you.
   Also, whenever she’s talking with you, you’ve got to pay attention to what she says. Ask her questions that relate to the topic she’s speaking to you. Don’t just sit there and simply say words like “okay” or “really?” Participate in the conversation.
   Good luck Memo!
3. 

   brandon
   

   25. Jul, 2009

   i agree with the whole… if she looks at your lips thing. take it from someone who has experienced it himself… but i find it troubling…
   i just graduated hs and theres this girl i think about a lot… but she had a bf… but i remember almost all our conversations, she looked at my lips and when she shifted stance she seemed…. unfocused. does this mean she wanted to? or am i simply crazy?
4. 

   Michael
   

   26. Jul, 2009

   @ Brandon
   It’s hard to say. You need to pay special attention to her body language. Was she leaning in close to you? Was she subtly licking her lips? Where the both of you flirting with each other? If so, she might have wanted you to kiss her.
   Next time, be sure to look for the subtle cues.
5. 

   harry
   

   25. Sep, 2009

   Please please please help me i am in year 7 and really love this girl but dnt now how to tell her please help me
6. 

   Michael
   

   26. Sep, 2009

   @ Harry
   First, calm down. Don’t tell her that you “love” her. That will scare her off. Besides, you really don’t love her. You’re simply infatuated with her - there’s a BIG difference. Love is something that gets built over time when two people are in a relationship.
   The best way to approach your situation is to talk with her. Don’t start the conversation off by saying that you “really, really like her.” Just be friendly and talk with her as an equal. This gives her the chance to get to know how great you are. It also gives you the chance to see if you really like her personality.
   Good luck Harry!
7. 

   cal
   

   09. Oct, 2009

   hi guys,
   theres this girl in my class who i sit next to and we get along really well, she mucks about with me and all that. I would like to ask her out but I cant tell if its too soon or not and if she would want to go out or just stay friends.
8. 

   Zach
   

   10. Oct, 2009

   There is this girl and we went to a dance adn we danced together and held hands a hugged a lot I was going to kiss her goodnight but i didn’t know if she wanted me too or not. Advice? she also said she loved me
9. 

   Zach
   

   10. Oct, 2009

   There is this girl and we went to a dance adn we danced together and held hands a hugged a lot I was going to kiss her goodnight but i didn’t know if she was ready too or not. Advice? she also said she loved me
10. 

    Rue
    

    15. Oct, 2009

    @ Zach

    Umm i dont think you should repost your stuff cuz someone will get to u .
    so if she said she loved you just go for a kiss but like hug and hold her first and just a tap man
11. 

    Kennedy
    

    22. Oct, 2009

    @ cal

    It’s never too soon to ask a girl out! Just remember to keep it simple - go for coffee after school, or to study one night for a test, or to go with her to the basketball game coming up. If you keep it simple, it takes some of the pressure off her to accept your offer. You can do it!
12. 

    Kennedy
    

    22. Oct, 2009

    @ Zach

    The “love” thing seems to have come out of nowhere there, but normally if things are going really well there is nothing wrong with finishing the night off with a kiss. Just remember to take a deep breath and go for it. It seems like from your description that she was practically begging for you to kiss her. Time to go out there and finish the job!
13. 

    josh
    

    17. Nov, 2009

    hi am 20 and i have a friend whos 17 and i realy like her we did not see each other for a while and we meet up on saturday for a drink and then we went to her houes and spent loads of time time 3hours and then i went home she lean on the door and say goodbye and i had fun. i felt like i should of kissed her? but i was not 100% sure. then i text her on monday and said do u fancy a coffee becuse she works from home and she said yer mite me at 12 30 so i went round and we talk for a long time again 3hours again. then she said she had to get back to work so i walk out the door and she stood there and we talk for about 20mins i feel she want a kiss again but i don’t want to me rejected bye her. what should i do?
14. 

    jack
    

    06. Dec, 2009

    i am in 13years old going to be 14 on january and i like this girl shes 1 year older than me and i dont know if i should make a move or not , and can u tell me what to do on my frist date?
15. 

    Jack
    

    06. Dec, 2009

    Hey, i’m 14 and i’m in year 10. I’ve liked this girl since year seven and she had a boyfriend, she broke up with him in year 9 at the end of the year and cried for ages. When ever i see her i get butterflies and can never muster enough strength to talk to her. I would like it if you could give me tips, or techniques to control my fear.
16. 

    Davidj
    

    12. Dec, 2009

    im fallin 4 dis girl i work wit & idk wot 2 do evry time we talk about sumtin idk wot 2 say r i think of sumtin & it dusnt last long
17. 

    Edgardo
    

    20. Dec, 2009

    Ok i like this girl and she is 2 years older than me and i like her alot we been talkin since october and we get along well but im not sure wat to do i get butterflies and dont kno wat to say it makes me feel like an idiot
18. 

    Greg
    

    22. Dec, 2009

    There is a girl who I am totally in love with, but I don’t know if she even likes me back. What would I say to ask this? Because “Hey, I really like you do you like me?” seems way too forward and would make it awkward. How would I tell her that I really like her? What exact words would I use? I have no idea. Lots of people think that I like her, but she’s never questioned it.

    I want to know how she feels too, but I don’t know how to ask.
19. 

    Zack
    

    26. Dec, 2009

    I’m 13yrs old and I finally got thecourage to ask this hot chick out and the date went great. All her friends say me and her are a cute couple but her friends said that I should kiss the girl on the next date, so wish me luck and can u give some tips if have any I really need them thnx
20. 

    Matt
    

    03. Jan, 2010

    @ Greg, what you could do to see if she likes you is if you two are in a hallway or somewhere with people, lean in and say “Hey (insert girls name here) my friend over there (point at some guy in the distance) wants to find out if you like me.” its not too direct and wouldn’t be awkward. There is little chance that she would lie to you if you say that. Good luck!
21. 

    warren
    

    20. Feb, 2010

    idont know if i posted my comment or not
22. 

    warren
    

    20. Feb, 2010

    well me and this girl always knuckle touch and talk and laugh like were normal friends and i cant seem to summon up the courage to ask her out……..
23. 

    Raynes
    

    20. Feb, 2010

    First off, u guys give some kick-ass advice. Thx a bunch. There’s this girl in my class. We hit it off instantly nd became great friends. We told each other everything and I was always there for her. We spent a lot of time together. After about 3 weeks I told her I liked her and she told me she had to think about it. She gave me excuses like,”I don’t date right now.” Nd later she said she didn’t like me in that way. Not long after this, I hear she made with some guy she hardly ever spoke to. When I asked her about it, she said it was just a school fling, nothing serious. Normally, I’d walk away,but the way we interact isn’t in the way friends do. We hug real passiontely, she leant on my shoulder at some point in class and she talks like there’s still hope for us in the future. Our conversations always end up in long term goals like marrige… She’s not exactly the hottest girl out there, there are plenty around, but I think I’ve fallen in love with who she is. When I ask her how she feels about me, she seems confused. She says its a no to a relationship with me right now, but not a no to me. I recently asked her if I should just move on and she said,” I think I want u to.” Her words said one thing but her face and the way she said she didn’t want to lose me. She’s been hurt by the last guys she got serious with and its like she wants me to prove I’m really into her. Her boyfriend feels threatened becoz we don’t act like friends and wants limitations. I told her I can’t do that and that if she wanted I cud back off. But she instantly pleaded with me not to and I cud tell it was sincere. I really think I love this girl but she’s giving me mixed signals and I don’t know if I can just sit and watch her making out with another guy anymore. This whole thing’s messing my life up. I’ve tried to see her as a friend but I can’t. What should I do?
24. 

    Kennedy
    

    21. Feb, 2010

    @ josh

    Dude. She’s totally waiting for you to kiss her. Do it already.
25. 

    Kennedy
    

    21. Feb, 2010

    @ jack

    Just be confident! Remember to use open ended questions to keep the conversation going. Ask her about HER. What she likes, favorite movies and tv shows, favorite foods, family, that kind of stuff. It’s that easy man - good luck!
26. 

    Kennedy
    

    21. Feb, 2010

    @ warren

    That can be a tough spot. You might be in the “Friend Zone”. Try asking her out to something a little more intimate - like dinner and a movie. See if she warms up to you a little bit, rather than being another goofy buddy. Careful about asking her about dating though, if she thinks you guys are just friends it could easily strain the relationship you already have.
    Good luck to you man!
27. 

    Kennedy
    

    21. Feb, 2010

    @ Raynes

    Thanks for the good words! We always enjoy getting feedback from you guys.
    Now onto your issue. You are not going to want to hear this, but it looks like she sees you solely as one of her best friends. And it also seems like she is stringing you along knowing how you feel about her.
    If this is really starting to mess with your head, it’s time you put some distance in between you and this girl. If she truly has some inner feelings for you, then this type of move usually will get these feelings to surface. Otherwise she’s just playing you, and that’s being terribly selfish on her part. Try taking a week and just hanging out with other friends, and cutting back on texts or emails you send to her, and see how she reacts. It’s going to be super hard, but it’s going to pay off for you in the end, no matter which way this ends up. You can do it!
28. 

    Raynes
    

    26. Feb, 2010

    Thanks Kennedy. I kinda of knew this was what I had to do ,but you gave me the push I needed. Thanks for being straight up with me and getting me out of a tight spot. Once again spectacular job u guys!!