How to get a girl interested in you
Posted on 21. Aug, 2007 by Michael in Dating Tips, Flirting Tips
Many girls want what they can’t have. This is one of the major truth’s when it comes to flirting with girls. Want proof? Think about all the times that you liked a girl, hung on her every word, was there whenever she needed you – and you became her friend, not a boyfriend, just a friend. Now think of that same girl and her boyfriend. Remember how you noticed that he didn’t give her the kind of attention you did? Well, that was probably one of the reasons she was with him. She saw value in his attention because it was rare; well rarer than yours anyway.
The next time you find yourself in that “we’re just friends” situation, remember that girls want what they can’t have. So, you shouldn’t always make yourself available for her. While you’re at it, stop paying so much attention to her too.
Here’s an example:
If she calls, answer the phone but cut her off about a minute into the call and say you’ve got plans and have to go. Don’t give her an explanation. Just say you’ve got to go but you’ll call her later and be nice about it. Oh, by later I mean two days later not two hours later.
By giving her less attention you, you make yourself more appealing. Why? Because your attention is a rarity; it’s supply and demand. Gold is worth so much because it’s rare. The same goes for you and your attention.
Shy to Talk, a fan of AdviceOnGirls.com
matt
20. Aug, 2010
hi ok i really like this girl i have since the start of the year we know each other alright we talk a little but i found out she likes someone else should i move on or keep persisting
Michael
20. Aug, 2010
@ Matt
Don’t ever give up until she says she isn’t interested in you!
shaoran
15. Sep, 2010
hey i really know a cute girl in my little brothers class i really like her n want to spend more time with her but she is going to leaving that school i have her number but do not have the courage to talk to her what should i do??
should i talk to her in person ?????????
plz some advise would be helpful
Trent
15. Sep, 2010
@shaoran
If she’s going to leave then you might want to just tell her. Just act like your serious about it. If you are with a couple of buddies and just walk up to her she might think it’s a joke.
shaoran
16. Sep, 2010
@trent
ahhhh i can do tht but how do i start talking with her at first?????
btw thnx foh the suggestion
^_________^”
kristian dunn
20. Sep, 2010
i like a girl named kylie pope. what should i do?
hahaha
26. Sep, 2010
so im trying to bang this chick who i really dont even know i just see her at partys a lot think i should just get her drunk or what
nathan
29. Sep, 2010
i really like this girl in my class but I’ve known her for two years and we only talked during the summer. but since shes in my classes we have been talking a lot but i never start the conversation she does. and sometimes i feel like she likes me but i am not sure because she always gives me mixed messages. what should i do?
justin
04. Oct, 2010
So there’s this girl I’ve liked for about a year while she was going out with another guy. I finally worked up enough confidence to tell her one day, but it’s only kind of worked. At first she she seemed really flattered and impressed, and then she kind of started avoiding me and it got awkard. 6 weeks after I told her, she broke up with her boyfriend and started talking to me a lot again. I tried being serious with her about it because i’m just so anxious to get this going (was that my mistake?) and now she’s shying away and it’s getting awkward again.. this is one girl i’m really trying to be serious with, please help
Joseph
11. Oct, 2010
@hahaha
Dude thats a jerk move
Joey
13. Oct, 2010
This girl and I were awesome friends. We would talk everyday and she’d run to come talk to me, but I think she likes someone else, should i keep trying or move on?
Kelvin
13. Oct, 2010
There is a girl i luv and would like 2 marry.How can i make d relationship 2 last?Can having sex with her sustain d relationship?
Parth
15. Oct, 2010
Man i like this girl but she got a boy friend. I dont know what to do but want her to go out with me.
Anonymous
20. Oct, 2010
Hey, i need some HELP PLEASE!.. i recently met this girl, and i like her alote… but the only thing is that i’m a lil shy to approach women..I want to ask this girl out, she recently told me that she just got out a relation and she’s still recovering..i respect that but i also don’t want to create a gap between us so that someone else can come boss a move on her, it has happened to me alote in the past, ” I see a girl but scared to approach her and someone else makes a move”., N’ways…I have kinda opened myself to let her know that i like her and i would like to get to know her a lil more..She seems to be going along with the flow and everything..i’ve met her like a week now and we seen each other twice.. and every time its around people..at a party and at my house having dinner with my family.., N’ways she planning on going on a road trip and i ask to tag along with her and she seem to not mind..I seriously need some advice- i wanna know how long i have to wait before i can ask her out, can someone give me some tips on what to do* — please give me some advice on how i can make things work ,, I DO NOT WANT THIS BEAUTIFUL BIRD TO FLY AWAY!.
Anonymous
22. Oct, 2010
nobody really answer’s this site huh, Very Disappointing !…
zack
24. Oct, 2010
@anonymous the things you just said her are the kinds of things you should say to her tell her whats in youre heart, for me it worked with my girlfriend i used to crush on her and think about her every second of the day and i got so tired of jus “thinkin” about her that i wanted to own up and be a man for once in my life, and thats how our relatonship started and if you want that beautiful bird then take her under youre wing =] but dont get to attached she might think youre crazii… just do what you think is right
Anonymous
24. Oct, 2010
@ Zack
- thanks for the Adv**- -,Well im starting to talk a lil more now, I can’t really keep up long convo’s, 30-45 mins convo’s, on Facebook or she usually txts me, – But i’m just having trouble approaching her the right ways — Im trying to fight the shyness out of me.. i need a strategy to do so — i haven’t dated a Girl for the past 2 years, my last relation had left me heart broken, and at the time i told myself ( Fu*** females)-i guess it was just hanger, but now that im trying to talk to someone that i think thats right for me, im just a lil scared to fall again…
Ryuuu
27. Oct, 2010
there’s a giirl that a really like in my high-school we don’t really knoow each otha everytime she passes by she say hi, ii want to go to her but i don’t how to star the conversation i don’t have the right question ! what akes things worse shee seems kind of girl which are hard to date ..
Ryuu*
30. Oct, 2010
there’s a giirl that I really like in my high-school we don’t really knoow each otha but everytime she passes by she say hi, ii wanna talk to her but i don’t know how to start the conversation i don’t have the right question !n’ what makes things worse she seems kind of girl which are hard to date ..
Charle
22. Nov, 2010
I can talk to girls, but I’m really boring. I have problems keeping their interest once I figure out what I can talk about. And another thing is getting numbers. It’s so tough for me to get a number without being extremely creepy about it. Not every girl is going to say yes to a request such as “hey, you’re hot, and if you’re not busy this weekend, give me your number and we’ll hang out.” things don’t work like this. Please give advice on how to get the number
tara
01. Dec, 2010
@charle you know, a good way to get her number would be by giving ur number first…:P
u cud be the boringest guy on the planet and tell her you like her and she-even for a split second-will be flattered and a bit more interested in you.
and obviously she’s not gonna respond to “hey you’re hot”
how is a girl supposed to respond to THAT?!
if ur friends, just ask and she’ll give.
Charle
04. Dec, 2010
@tara. You don’t think that would make me too desperate would it? Normally, it’s easier to get rejected if I throw my number out there and a girl says no thanks to it. Just saying…
Anonymus
07. Dec, 2010
theres a girl that ive known for 4 years and i just started to like her a few months ago. im in 6th grade. a couple of days ago at school, a good friend of mine tells everyone that he lovs her… he was serious. I dont know what to do, cause if somehow she leaves him 4 me(which I doubt will happen), he will be “hurt”. He’s really funny, and a great friend, and now makin me jealous. What should i do???
Anonymus
07. Dec, 2010
By the way, Anonymus (me) isnt the same person as Anonymous
(the other Anonymous spelled it right)
Anonymus
07. Dec, 2010
Also, the guy whos my friend that lovs her is now officially her “boyfriend” ;,-(
Nate
14. Dec, 2010
Hey their is this japanese exchange student at my school who i think is cute. im really in to japanese culture( manga, music, anime, ect) thats why im kinda interested in her(she also plays guitar ‘rraw’) . anyways, she’s in my 2nd block & lunch. i would go up and talk to her but im kind of a shy person, plus she moves quick too. can someone give me any tips on to approach her. i really wanna talk to her(maybe go on a date or 2) before she goes back to japan.
Nate
14. Dec, 2010
dang i ment ‘there’ at the beginning, typo……
Kyle
14. Dec, 2010
Okay… there’s a girl that I like I’ve never felt this s way about any other girl. But she has a boyfriend…we both say we’re just friends to keep the boyfriend from getting pissed but i want to get her away from him beacuse he doesn’t treat her right. i’ve told her what I think of her. any advice?
Kaleb
02. Jan, 2011
Hi. I seem to be stuck in the so called “friend zone” and I wish I wasn’t. How might I get out of this predicament, and how should I go about the rest of the process?
Jason
02. Jan, 2011
@ Michael, I need some help like asap. I’ve known this girl for like two months now and we’ve been kickin it about every weekend to the point where i told her i like her and she told me she likes me then we almost kiss one weekend and the following week she tells me she has a so called thing for anoher guy and i told her ok does that mean you want me to back off an she said no, so then what ends up happening is i see her and another dude out in public nd she sees me and does not acknowledge that im even there so then that night i asked her about it an she tells me its the guy she likes, well im just lost on what to do in this situation bc idk if she’s playin hard to get or what, bc now she is dating this guy, and i have just been keeping my distance with her, what else can i do this is my S.O.S. Please help it’ll be much appreciated
clancy
04. Jan, 2011
ummmmm well ive got a girl at school but she likes someone else and he likes her to just there not together
also she damn isent in my class this yeah so i dont know how to talk to her because she is always to fast and when i try to talk to her her dand lover comes over coz he sees me and wants the girl.He also knows i like her wich is rather anoying.
so please give me some advice please please please!
oh also other girls LOOOOOOVE me
.......
12. Jan, 2011
@clancy
Haha if girls love you so much, why do you need advice…? sounds like your a ladies man to me.
quinten
23. Jan, 2011
alright so i like this girl in my class and shes really cool but she barely even talks to me and the comment about playing an instrument turns girls on doesn`t work. how do i get her intersested in me?i really need some advice.i`ve liked her since the 5th gade
Kevin
14. Feb, 2011
Listen, i met this girl on facebook and i been texting to her for a few days now and i have to say, just the way we talked and everything made me more attractive to her. I just love talking to her and everything but she goes to a different school and I don’t know how to ask her out and meet her in person or how to make her wanna meet me like i wanna meet her. can someone tell me what to say or how to do this? i dont wanna screw up because i been down that road several times. THANK U TO WHOEVER ANSWERS!
rodes
14. Feb, 2011
i really liked this girl, and i asked her to dance at a social, but she said no. I had known she had liked me but her “popular” friend told her that i wasnt cool enought or popular enough, so it forced her to say no. she said ‘no thanks” in a very shy, insincere way, and she sounded very sad. ive tried to impress her, but its not working. should i move on or is their still hope on this? thanks
Jake
15. Feb, 2011
Ok, so I REALLY like this girl. We talked a little but over the summer and she was kind of intersted but once school started everything just fell apart. My best friend liked the same girl, so it was complicated for a while, and then my other friend’s brother started talking to her and now they’re basically dating but not exclusive. Is there any possible way I can direct her attention back to me? She’s really into basketball and plays on our school’s team. So does the kid shes intersted in. Thanks guys!
Ankit
20. Feb, 2011
I saw a girl in exhibition she was juss awesome now i have her number, so how to start conversation that she doest refuse my proposal of frndship plz.. help me i lyk her very much….
Raymond
22. Feb, 2011
Hi, theres a girl in my class and i like her, we’ve spoke a little but she seems kind of shy, i’m quite shy aswell, what can i do?
Michael
23. Feb, 2011
Hi Raymond,
Go read the “How to start a conversation” page. That’ll give you all the advice you need.
Michael
23. Feb, 2011
Hi ankit,
If she actually gave you her number then it would be ok to call her. Again, if she gave it to you, then she’s definitely interested in getting to know you better.
Michael
23. Feb, 2011
@Jake
That’s a tough situation man. If you can, try to be a good friend to her. Invite her out to do things, even the small stuff like taking walks. Let her spend some time with you and get to know your winning personality. Best of luck!
ayanrast
03. Mar, 2011
hi , i like a gal ..and once i was chatting online with her she said i was just timepass….wat should i do….is it a hint that she dose not like me or should i keep trying on her..plz do reply
Ant
27. Mar, 2011
Ok… I have met this girl twice at 2 parties and I have a crush on her, she’s lovely, she laughs at my randomness and we get along fine, I’m so in love with her its unreal! What should I do? Should I express my feelings to her or ask her out? I’m so confused!! Feedback would be appreciated thank you.
sLeepy
18. Apr, 2011
I know this girl and I like her but we’ve kinda grown apart bc she had feelings for another guy and then kinda just pushed me out of the picture but later she apoligized for treating me wrong, I see this girl often at school throughout the week and i havent talked to her for about 4 weeks bc i just feel like space is best for me and her right now at this moment.. but she has bee staring at me alot lately ( like those long stares not glances lol ) well im just puzzled on what to do bc honestly when she could of had me she just made me a option when she prolly should of made me a priority.. Idk what to do.. I mean i feel like movin on but then again i still like her so Please this is my SOS Help Me!!!
Chris
19. Apr, 2011
Here’s my problem. I worry way to much. I just wanted to get that out there before i say my story. So recently there was a dance I was at. And normally I’m really nervous when it comes to approaching girls. For this one time I finally approach this pretty girl and ask her to dance with me. It seemed like she enjoyed the dance and we talked alot. She couldn’t stop smiling. Later one of my friends that was a girl said she thought I was really cute and she was interested in me. To make this even more odd, without me even asking she gave me her number. So everything seemed to work out pretty good. Here’s the problem. We live in completely different towns and i don’t thInk I’m going to get tonsee her in person much at all. So we’ve been texting a decent amount but I really can’t “read” her too well. It’s really weird because it seems like at one point she really likes me and then a moment later she could care less about me. And honestly I’ve given her alot of compliments and have Been very respectful and nice. I really don’t know what to do. See, most of relationships recently have gone off terribly, and normally with mengetting dumped like a piece of trash. So this is something I really want to take advantage of. So how am I going to find out if she like me or if she’s even interested? I would really appreciate some advice on this. Thank you for taking your time to listen to me.
toby
23. Apr, 2011
well a couple of days ago i met this girl it went realy well i thought and she got my number and i got her i walked her home and she said she would txt me its been like 3-4 days now and she ant txted me i tried fcbooking her and txting her and she wont reply!!!!!
pls help,, what should i do?
malcom kirimi
27. Apr, 2011
i have a big problem.when it comes to talking to girls,i get shy and afraid.i do not know how to start a conversation.i mean, it really hurts to see all my friends “go for the kill” while i just watch.what questions do people ask,how do they approach them with confidence.i cannot walk right straight to girls.i always think they might call me a loser because i cannot flirt.it is so serious that even if i see a girl sitting alone idly,i cant make a move.i really need your help right now since we are going out to a party tonight.i want to use your advice
Diamond
02. May, 2011
@Michael or @ Whom ever it may concern: I think you guys should put up a thread about how to text a girl the right way.. Or start putting up some new stuff bc I think that would be really helpful to some that are needing help in that area.. Please respond ASAP..Sincerly, Diamond
Larry
02. May, 2011
hello i need some advice truthfully. this girl i knew from school we talked on the phone online and we meet in person and i really like this girl alot and i told her how i feel about her i open up and told her everything and then she open up and told me eveyrthing as well but this is the situation im having with her she told me shes in a relationship with this guy a week before we talked and she told me it was one of her ex that she was living with that beated her and she left him this was 2 years ago and now hes back in her life but they cant have a realtionship because hes living with his kid and his wife and he told her that they was spilt up but living together and he tells her hes loves her and she tells me that she her gut that is lying and using her and her heart is inlove with him, hes a manager at a store but yet he ask her to borrow 400 bucks for tires…and we are friends that is close and we talk on the phone together for 3plus hrs or more everyday and she told me she like me alot and she would of went out with me and kiss me on the 2nd date she got feelings but she cant go to someone to talk about it, i truly love this girl with my heart …..
yawe sol
16. May, 2011
how can i really get a girl interested in me