First date? Let her initiate the first touch.

Posted on 09. Aug, 2007 by in Dating Tips, Flirting Tips

A recent comment by a new visitor got me thinking about this. As a guy, it’s generally a good rule to let the girl break that personal barrier and initiate the first touch.

If you touch the girl before she is ready, she could not only be turned off by it but she might also think you’re weird or worse, a pervert. So it’s usually best to let her touch you first.

There are exceptions to this that usually come in the form of certain body language from the girl. But that is a topic for another post.

5 Responses to “First date? Let her initiate the first touch.”

  1. Gabor Keller

    13. Aug, 2007

    In my eyes one of the best thing when the eyes can speaking each other as well as the feromons giving themselves to each other – across bodylanguage too…ummm

  2. Michael

    14. Aug, 2007

    Yeah, that is cool isn’t it!

  3. Norm

    05. Jan, 2009

    I definetely agree. Never “physically” approach a girl until she’s ready or comfortable with you. It can literally ruin your chances with her. Usually what I do(like what you said Michael) is to allow them to make the first contact. Here’s a little example for us guys:
    (I’m in high school, and if i could do it, so can you gusy!!)
    I liked this girl very, very much. And I’d took many advices from examples and friends that i began to approach towards her. I started conversations that lasted 10mins and beyond. And best of all i made her laugh. Then i began to tease her a little(NOT EXCESSIVELY) so that I woulnd’t be so boring each time i encounter her. And after a while she began to nag and teased back by light slapping or small pushing(did i mention she also laughed and smile while she was doing it?). THAT is the correct identication that its alright for you to have contact with her and that she accepts the fact that she is comfortable with you.
    Hoped this helped, GOOD LUCK!!

  4. jacob wong

    30. Jul, 2009

    hii i am a singaporean and i started know a girl from a shop n i have make the wrong step n it ended very sad that she dun wanna meet me n ask me dun waste time on her…..
    she have know i love her!! n rite i just hope to get her back….
    pls reply in email
    .

  5. Aleks

    22. Mar, 2011

    Hi, could it depends on the kind of girl, I got out of a relationship with a very physical girl, and she did initiate the touch, but I have a date tomorrow night with a very shy girl whom I doubt she will initiate the touch, so I might go first, anyway I’ll send another comments after my date to let you know.

    Have a nice day

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