Many girls want what they can’t have. This is one of the major truth’s when it comes to flirting with girls. Want proof? Think about all the times that you liked a girl, hung on her every word, was there whenever she needed you – and you became her friend, not a boyfriend, just a friend. Now think of that same girl and her boyfriend. Remember how you noticed that he didn’t give her the kind of attention you did? Well, that was probably one of the reasons she was with him. She saw value in his attention because it was rare; well rarer than yours anyway.
The next time you find yourself in that “we’re just friends” situation, remember that girls want what they can’t have. So, you shouldn’t always make yourself available for her. While you’re at it, stop paying so much attention to her too.
Here’s an example:
If she calls, answer the phone but cut her off about a minute into the call and say you’ve got plans and have to go. Don’t give her an explanation. Just say you’ve got to go but you’ll call her later and be nice about it. Oh, by later I mean two days later not two hours later.
By giving her less attention you, you make yourself more appealing. Why? Because your attention is a rarity; it’s supply and demand. Gold is worth so much because it’s rare. The same goes for you and your attention.
16 Responses
Ananya
August 23rd, 2007 at 2:10 pm
1Simple and straighforward: Just be yourself and be open and honest if it is meant to be it will happen.
Michael
August 23rd, 2007 at 9:26 pm
2Hi Ananya,
Thanks for commenting!
I agree, guys should be themselves and never be fake. However, you can still be yourself and show restraint when it comes to giving the girl your undying attention.
Thanks for stopping by; I hope to see you drop by again!
Laura
January 28th, 2008 at 5:54 am
3first, just to say, i am female. how i got onto this site i don’t no, i was searching the word potential in Google images and was somehow lead here. But anyway, i am a girl, and just to confuse you guys more not all girls are like that. If a guy that i was interested in started paying me less attention, cut phone calls short without explanation, and didn’t call back until a couple of days later, i would get the hint that he’s not interested but is just to polite to say it up front. This would really just make me confused, and not be able to read them. Eventually my attraction to that guy will fade and the chance has been lost.
Michael
January 28th, 2008 at 9:19 pm
4Hi Laura,
First, thanks for your comment - even though you didn’t mean to find this site.
Second, you are right on two counts. Not all girls are like that and yes, you would take offense to that action if you were interested in that guy.
However, this post isn’t about giving less attention to a girl if she is interested in you. It’s about giving less attention to a girl to get her interested in you. While this doesn’t work all the time, it is odd and amusing at how much it does work.
Again, thanks for the comment!
Clara
May 1st, 2008 at 4:01 pm
5I really agree with Laura. If a guy that you are interested in cut phone calls short with out an explanation, and he gave you less attention, then you would think that he’s trying to leave a hint. Even if you don’t like the guy, it can still be a turn off. The girls will just look for more attenion else where.
I am a girl so I do know about these things. How to turn a girl off, simple… ignore her, and disgust her. Do things that she doesn’t like, blow her off for your guy friends. Do things like that, and she is sooooo gone!
You can’t get a girl to be interested in you, but you can be noticed. Talk to her, and write her notes, (not sappy love notes, that might make her uncomfertable) invite her to do things with you and your friends. She will start liking you sooner or later.
If you want to make a girl jealous (even if she doesn’t like you these things will work.) Look at other girls, and say that you like ______, say that _______ is soooooo beautiful and smart and great (only if your friends, if your not then she will think that your a stalker)
I hope these tips help you guys! Comment some more!!! :):):)
Trust me this advice really works!!!!
Giana
May 11th, 2008 at 3:10 pm
6Well… I have no idea how I got onto this site. I saw your problem, and I thought…well, maybe I could help this guy out!
Ask the girl if you can help her with something, like for example:
You: Hey there (girls name here). I’m (you name here) do you need some help carrying those books, they look pretty heavy!
Her: Sure! How sweet of you to ask!!!
Or you could try the “‘Sup,” Method:
OK so she walks by you…and you say:’Sup.
She’ll either giggle, or play along and say ” Nothing much, how about you?” or she might even smile!!!
I’m a girl and I know these things… soif youneed advice, e-mail me at:
awsomeadvice@gmail.com
MOON
May 17th, 2008 at 2:05 am
7I’m a guy so i think that arogancy might help sometimes,ofcorse if the girl needs help you should help her BUT do not give her too much space just help her and go leave her thinking the reason you helped her,sooner or later she will find out that there are not many guy’s like you (that are nice and help) so she will get interested in you.You might avoide the first aproach she makes for you just to get her more interested in you,but if you call her suddenly or ask her to go out she will be pleasently supriesed and belive me she will agree.
Michael
May 21st, 2008 at 6:32 pm
8There are many good points in all your comments!
Thanks for sharing!
Anyone else have anymore suggestions?
Kaela
June 3rd, 2008 at 3:24 pm
9I’m a girl too (I accidentally found this site), And I have A LOT of good advice on this. First of, don’t be obnoxious or rude, and definitely don’t be aggressive and assertive. Be kind and let the girl you like have some space, find out what makes her laugh (most girls love funny guys), and let her hear what she wants to hear. But girls really like it when they know you like them because you keep dropping hints.
Michael
June 3rd, 2008 at 9:18 pm
10@ Kaela
Well said! Listen to her guys. She’s smart.
…A lot of girls have been finding this post lately. Interesting…
kunal dev
June 27th, 2008 at 5:08 pm
11hey michael
on the day of my school farewell i approached a girl asked her to dance she even agreed but then i dint no wat to talk to her….finally she went bck with hr frnzz.help me !!!
Michael
June 27th, 2008 at 8:54 pm
12@ Kunal Dev
Man, I have no idea why you didn’t want to talk with her. That’s a mistake. The fact that she agreed to dance with you is a good indicator that she’s at least somewhat interested.
My advice is to go up to her, and say something like, “Hey, I had a good time dancing with you the other night. Sorry, I didn’t say much. Guess I was too busy concentrating on not making a fool of myself on the dance floor.”
Hopefully she’ll think that’s funny and the “door” will be opened up a little bit.
Good luck!
Leroy
July 14th, 2008 at 8:49 am
13Giana, Thats horrible!! I am sorry I have three sisters and nothin like that work unless you are certain where your going after the “sup” part and that seems to be the biggest problem for most guys. It’s the “what-to-say-next-syndrome” It blows but what are you gonna do? I just normally follow up with some thing direct. If the girl doesn’t want to do something with me I back off, get more familiar with her and then disappear. Or, at least don’t come around much for a couple weeks then show up randomly somewhere she is usually at and explain that you were really busy and wish that you could have spent more time hangin out with her but you will have to play catch up later on tonight or tomorrow as you just “ran into” some free time.
Cheers and Happy Hunting!
barry
October 23rd, 2008 at 6:15 pm
14i am so confused right now!!! well heres the deal i really like this girl but i cant tell if she likes me back when i show affection to her it backfires an when im ready to leave her alone an move on she always says something like “remeber you said so-and-so” feels like i am being played but she isnt that type of girl an whats worse is she got out of a big relationship an she has alot of guy friends prety sure most of them are trying to get with her but tahts only a small part of it this what ever it is, is really stressing me out
Chris
October 29th, 2008 at 1:55 am
15For all of the girls that say “not all girls are the same.” You’re right, they’re not everyone has a different personality, but you’re wrong in thinking that some girls should have undivided attention. I don’t care if a girl says she won’t date a guy because he doesn’t pay enough attention to her. It’s not true. Girls want attention, and the more rare it is coming from you, the more they’ll want it and the more they’ll want you. Yes all girls. There is a fine line between ingoring a girl and not giving her your undivided attention. Don’t mistake this for being a jerk, it’s just making her want what she can’t have. Don’t take advise from girls about how to get them, trust me on this one. All girls are going to say that all girls are different and they just want a nice guy that pays attention to them, I have yet to meet a girl that will go out with you after hanging on to their every word and being a “really nice guy.”
Chris
October 29th, 2008 at 2:07 am
16@ Barry. A friend is someone that is available. Seems like you show her affection a little too often, back off a little bit, she’s not playing you she just loses interest when you pay too much attention to her. When you’re ready to leave her alone, and she talks to you that’s not you being played, that’s her wanting more attention. Attention that you’re not going to give her, don’t be rude about it, never be rude just don’t pay too much attention to her. The best advice that you’ll ever hear is “treat her like a fat chick.” All the girls reading this will gasp and so no, but they’re wrong. Treat her like a fat chick. Talk to her, make her laugh, have a small conversation but you’re not holding on to every word she says and you’re confident because she’s just a fat chick.
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